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Friday, May 7, 2010

The importance of an apology...


Thought this was a very interesting quote. It is amazing what great things an apology can accomplish. I recently had a situation where someone had done something to really hurt me. I talked to her about it and, shockingly to me, she never even said or acted like she was sorry. . . A few days later, she did apologize and told me she should have done so sooner, but felt like it was not enough to say she was sorry. Well, not to sound like I did NOT appreciate the apology whenever it came, but I felt like it was a little too late. At least if she had said she was sorry at the time, it would have been a step in the right direction. Just goes to show that those two words.."I'm Sorry!" said with sincerity can go a LONG LONG way in repairing relationships. It's not always about who is wrong and who is right, but about showing how much we value the other person's role in our lives. Sometimes we feel so justified in NOT saying sorry, that we damage things beyond repair. However, it is very important that we are sincere in saying it and not doing it for show or just because. Sometimes it does take awhile to calm down and think things through. So, I encourage each of you to take a look around you and think about your relationships with friends and family. Is there a need to apologize? It could have been an offense that happened years ago that you need to repair. Or, we may just THINK someone is upset with us - not really even knowing why. Why not say you're sorry and see if you don't feel a whole lot better!!

2 comments:

Cortney said...

I'm sorry that I have not come by your blog earlier. I'm sorry that after talking to you just about daily I have not left you a comment in weeks. I feel so remiss in being a friend. Please forgive me. I do miss you greatly. *hugs* I believe that you are so right in what you said about apologizing. It's true that sometimes it's too little too late. But sometimes the tardiness is ensuring that the sincerity and honesty is there. Like Sunday's (3/9/2010) WT lesson said: "For example, if someone offends you, do you bear in mind that both of you are sinners? You both need God's forgiveness, and you should both be forgiving." I thought that was an excellent point. An apology is necessary but we want it to be sincere which may take time and then on top of that we both need to forgive, which is part of what an apology initiates. Jehovah always knows what we need when we need it. :)

laura said...

I know this is an older post, but I just wanted to add my two cents. My husband had to teach me how to apologize. I would not say I was sorry because I was certain that I had been right. How could I be sorry about being right? But he taught me to look for what I could be sorry for--I'm sorry I upset you, I'm sorry I got so upset, I'm sorry about the way I said it or who I said it in front of... It Saved our marriage.